This article appeared in The New Paper yesterday. The lesson that I learnt from this, is that failure is the mother of success. You must learn to accept failures before you can succeed. So who cares how your stock portfolio performs last year. The important thing is -- Did you learn how you can improve? Why we\'re poor losers in sports JESSIE PHUA: THE BEST athletes in the world fail more than they win. But when they lose, it never dampens their spirit. Instead, they come back stronger, they come back fighting with more resolve. Nothing prepares you better for life than sports does. This is important, especially in Singapore\'s context, to remind people that it is perfectly OK to fail. It is perfectly OK to lose. My bowling consultant Sid Allen had this to say of Singaporean athletes when he first came here. He was head coach of Malaysia\'s bowling team for 10 years (from 1990-2000, when he produced a top-notch Malaysian women\'s team). He told me Singaporeans cannot lose. Yes, he\'s right, Singaporeans do not know how to lose. When Singaporeans come face to face with confrontation, they are the first ones to turn away. When Singaporean athletes go to competitions, they are already thinking of excuses to explain why they did not win. Part of the problem is this \'face\' thing. Our education system leaves us very little room for failure. Everybody wants to save face and because of that, we make sure that we enter a situation where we know for sure that we will win. If we\'re not in that situation, we always buy insurance first so that in the event it does happen, we\'re going to say, \'well, I told you so.\' The fighting spirit is so lacking in some of our athletes. I see some of our athletes go pale even before they go into the competition arena. Someone asked me if I thought I would win when I put in my bid for the FIQ presidency (in early 2007). I told him it\'s the same thing as asking my bowlers if they will win the gold medal when they go for the major Games. If I did not think that I would win, why did I put in my bid? We must have the mindset that even if we die fighting for it, we\'ll know we fought a good battle. ANNABEL PENNEFATHER: I REMEMBER an incident when I was still president of the Singapore Women\'s Hockey Association. In 1990, I wanted my girls to be selected for the Asian Games. So we sent them to South Korea for exposure. We were beaten 16-0. When the girls came back, the men were saying, \'Oh, this is terrible, we cannot afford to lose like this. They must hang up their sticks.\' Mind you, those were the days of Melanie Martens and Florence Chua. It was one of the best teams we\'ve had. But I told the girls it was OK. We would just keep doing it slowly and quietly. Two years later, we hosted the Inter-Nations Women\'s tournament in Singapore. We held stronger teams like Italy and we finished at a reasonable level. The point I\'m trying to make is that the girls wouldn\'t have had the confidence or the experience if they had not gone to that event in South Korea. That same team went on to win Singapore\'s only South-east Asia Games hockey gold medal in 1993. And the same person, I won\'t mention names here, who criticised the girls in 1990, eventually wrote about what a difference those two years had made. We had to lose to win. It was a long and lonely journey, but in the end we won.
SINGAPORE\'S SPORTS DIVAS JESSIE PHUA, 53, president of SingaporeBowling, president of bowling\'s world body Federation International des Quilleurs (FIQ), and a Nominated Member of Parliament. ANNABEL PENNEFATHER, 60, president of Singapore Hockey Federation (SHF), vice-president of International Hockey Federation (FIH) and Singapore National Olympic Council (SNOC). LEE BEE WAH, 48, president of Singapore Table Tennis Association (STTA), Member of Parliament for Ang Mo Kio GRC The hosts at Bollywood Veggies farm: IVY SINGH-LIM, 59, ex-president of Netball Singapore from 1992-2005, farmer-owner of vegetable farm Bollywood Veggies along Neo Tiew Road, and president of the Kranji Countryside Association. JUDY KONG, 61, education director for Bollywood Veggies, head of Singapore Baseball and Softball Association\'s (SBSA) media and publicity committee, and former executive director for Netball Singapore in 2000 and 2001.